Being a “hero.” That’s sounds like a real stretch for most people. When you think of the term “hero,” what picture comes to mind? A policeman? A fireman? A rescue worker? A soldier? They can all certainly be heroes. But the term “hero” doesn’t just belong to those men and women in high-risk careers. It belongs to that person who stopped to help a stranger, who helped to feed the hungry, and so many more. “Hero” isn’t a term we…
It was 8:00pm on a Saturday night, and I was already curled up in bed reading a book. My husband is in the army and was at an out-of-state, month-long training, and, while I enjoyed relaxing nights by myself, I also hated being alone in our house. Halfway through my novel, I heard a crunching outside my window, like someone stepping on leaves. I automatically froze up and panicked. What if someone was about to break in? Where would I…
In our talks and programs about boundaries, we talk about coming up with a personal safety plan that has multiple layers of security. The more layers you can add, the harder it is for a criminal to victimize you. Criminals look for an easy target. The more difficult it is for them, the more likely it is they will decide to look somewhere else. Our job is to make it too difficult for them. So difficult that the criminal decides…
The far reaching effects of abuse are amazing. It is amazing how you can be going through your every day life, and BAM! you are now responding to something that “feels” connected to your past, even if it’s not, and you suddenly feel unsafe again (the crap). I have experienced this many times. It was when I had finally “had enough” of the debilitating behaviors that were associated to abuses I experienced as a small girl and as a young…
The thing I love about our company name (LaBCaF), is what it stands for…Legs and Brains-Claws and Fangs. When I think about this it tells me, as a woman, that there are so many options available to keep me safe. It helps me remember that being safe is not only about having the physical stamina or training to fight my way out of bad situations. For me, there have been many moments where I just didn’t feel confident that I…